BREAKING THE "NEVER ENOUGH" CYCLE
The “never enough” cycle that many Christians find themselves bound to can become an endless pattern of disappointment, self-criticism, heartache, and frankly, can feel like a personal hell. Believing that you are unworthy or “not enough” as a person will cause you to live in a perpetual state of trying to measure up, resulting in a performance mind set, which could potentially lead to burn out. A performance mind set means that you DO THINGS in order to BE SOMETHING to gain approval and acceptance. It’s utterly shocking the effect living this way can have on a persons mind, emotions, and even their physical body.
Our worth as human beings can never be wrapped up in a talent, skill, money, status, or position. Many years ago I asked myself a hard question: “if you did not have your voice as a tool for the Kingdom of God as a worship leader and speaker, would you still have worth?” I wish I could tell you that my immediate response was “YES!!! I AM WORTHY!” Actually, I had to dwell on that for a good day or two. Though I hated to admit it, I discovered in that process there were parts of me that were dependent on what I could do, rather than resting in who I am as a child of God.
One of the greatest joys of my life has been watching my children grow. Every stage of their development has presented incredible joy as well as difficult challenges. I have learned that each child is unique and different and does not process, think, speak, or respond the same. I know, I know. Everybody knows that! Well, can I just pull a parent card right now and say that until you experience it yourself, you just won’t get it! I firmly believe the best thing we can teach our children is their worth and value – which has NOTHING to do with performance or skill, but their position in Christ Jesus. If we diligently work towards this we will have given our kids the greatest gift of all and a foundation to live their best life. After all, isn’t this exactly what our Heavenly Father has done for us?
Perhaps you do not know, or maybe you do know but have forgotten, that the Creator of the universe is your creator! The God who spoke the galaxies into existence, who breathed the breath of life into mankind, formed and knitted you together in your mother’s womb.
Here are a few thoughts backed by scripture to help and encourage you.
Mankind is the only created thing that bears the imagine and likeness of God. (Genesis 1:26-27 - Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over [g]all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” 27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.)
Every part of you is created, known, and loved by God. (Psalm 139:13-16 - For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. 14 I will praise You, for [g]I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. 15 My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. 16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them.
You are chosen by God and He calls you His special treasure. (1 Peter 2:9 - But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light;
We are significant, but God is sovereign.
To break the “never enough” cycle you must accept that He IS enough, and because He is, we can rest in His accomplished works and walk confidently in the works He has prepared for us. You must also rest in your identity in Christ. Our culture is constantly screaming lies; tearing down truth and purity and tempting us with demonic influence.
It’s time to break the cycle of “never enough” by receiving truth and renouncing lies and resting in the truth of the real you - a child of God who is ENOUGH because Jesus has already paid it all.
Love you! xo
Lydia